Obituary for Mary Bessinger

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Mary Bessinger

February 17, 1930 - March 11, 2018

Mary (Nee: Nolan) Bessinger

 Chester, NY



Mary Nolan Bessinger

Chester, NY

Mary Nolan Bessinger of Chester, New York, an underwriter for the New York Life, died in the compassionate care of the staff at Middletown Park Manor. The daughter of the late Thomas & Mary Nolan, she was born on February 17, 1932, in New York, New York.

Mary was a child of Irish immigrants and she grew up with a love of all things Celtic. In her youth, she loved to dance an Irish jig, and the music always made her tap her feet and smile. She shared decades of friendship with; Ann Bessinger, Eileen and Maureen Fahy, and Regina Petrakis. We are so thankful for the memories they all shared and the burdens they took from mom’s shoulders. We are grateful for the love and kindness shown to her by her nephew and his wife, David and Linda Robie, as well as wonderful friends, Lynda Scocozza, Eileen Sullivan, and Jeanette Avellan.


She always said her mother prayed for her to meet a wonderful husband. Those prayers were answered when she married the love of her life, George Bessinger. Through his illness and passing, she was a source of strength for our family. She adored her grandchildren, Brenna and George Lawson, and her joy was evident whenever they spent time together.

There is a traditional Irish lullaby that she sang to her children and grandchildren. We send her to the gates of heaven with these words from that lullaby:

“Oft in dreams I wander, to that cot again. I feel her arms-a-huggin me as when she held me then. And I hear her voice a hummin’ to me as in days of yore. When she used to rock me fast asleep outside the cabin door.”

Mary was widowed by George Bessinger. She is survived by her son William, daughter Alice Lawson son in law David Lawson all of Chester, NY, as well as grandchildren Brenna and George Lawson.

A Wake will be held on Thursday, March 15, 2018, during the hours of 4:00 PM to 7:00 PM at Flynn Funeral & Cremation Memorial Centers, Inc. located at 139 Stage Road Monroe, NY 10950.

A Funeral Mass will be offered on Friday, March 16, 2018, at 11:00 AM in St. Columba R.C. Church, located at 29 High Street, Chester, NY 10918.

Burial will follow in the family plot located in St. Columba R.C. Church Parish Cemetery, Chester, NY.

Funeral arrangements have been entrusted to Thomas F. Flynn and the staff of Flynn Funeral & Cremation Memorial Centers, Inc.  For directions to the funeral home, St. Columba Church or to offer an online memorial please visit


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Date: Thursday, March 15, 2018

Time: 4:00 pm - 7:00 pm

Date: Friday, March 16, 2018

Time: 11:00 am

Date: Friday, March 16, 2018

Time: 12:10 pm


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Born: February 17, 1930
Died: March 11, 2018

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Courtney Visser posted on 3/15/18

Our Prayers are with you, Alice , Bill , Dave,  Brenna and George . She was a very special lady and Grandma who was kind and loving. What a beautiful video. Love,Terri and Courtney Visser


Expression of Sympathy posted on 3/14/18

A Tradition and Splendor was sent on March 14, 2018

Our love and prayers are with you in this time of loss. Sean, Heather, Cadence and Calliope Nixon


Rich + Barb Halaychik posted on 3/14/18

So sorry for the loss of your Mom. May you find comfort in knowing your Mom is now with your Dad, and her suffering is over. She will be watching from above and her memories will be with you forever. Thank you for sharing those priceless photos of her and your Dad.
                                                                                       Sending our love,
                                                                                       Rich + Barb


David Nemo posted on 3/14/18

I will always remember the welcoming warmth and kindness your Mom has expressed to me when I used to see her. She will be greatly missed...


Expression of Sympathy posted on 3/14/18

A Traditional Funeral Basket was ordered on March 14, 2018


kathleen sullivan posted on 3/14/18

So sorry to hear this.  Mary and George were good friends of my mom, my dad and my sister, Eileen.  They shared many fond memories.


Valerie Holzmann posted on 3/14/18

While I did not have the occasion to meet Mary in person, I have the great honor of counting her dear daughter, Alice, as my friend. For more than a decade we have shared tales of both our moms and their special relationship with grandchildren. The woman that Alice has become, strong, kind, benevolent and gentle, is a TRUE and accurate testimony to how Mary guided and raised her. My family has you in our prayers, Mary is at rest. God bless you Alice for all you have done, you are a great daughter, and a fantastic mother.


Expression of Sympathy posted on 3/14/18

A Grandma's Garden Table Basket was ordered on March 14, 2018


Expression of Sympathy posted on 3/14/18

A Grandma's Garden Table Basket was ordered on March 14, 2018


Expression of Sympathy posted on 3/13/18

An A Garden Path was sent on March 13, 2018

Our prayers and thoughts are with you. She was such a lovely and special person and will be missed deeply. Love, Keith and Liz


Heather Nixon and Family posted on 3/12/18

So sorry to hear of Aunt Mary's passing.   My deepest sympathies.


Keith & Elizabeth Manzella posted on 3/12/18

Deepest sympathy for the loss of a wonderful woman who will be missed. She is in our thoughts.